I have dated many awful guys. I've also dated some gems, but a lot of digging through the dirt to find them.
It should also be noted that I have really only had two "facebook official" boyfriends... You know it's official. And then one two week boyfriend in high school- that doesn't really count, though. We were fifteen.
So just a few real boyfriends, but I've "dated", "talked," "hung out" with my fair share of guys. A lot of them were just jerks. No clue why I stuck around with most of them.
I have a great family, awesome big brother and older male cousins. I swear that my guy cousins on my dad's side didn't realize I was a girl until I was 17. All these guys treat me well and are pretty protective of me. Why in the world did I date such awful guys with such great examples like them? (If any of you cousins or big brother are reading this, don't get a big ego...)
But that's just the way some girls are hardwired to be. And apparently, some guys are too.
My friend explained it to me this way: Why date someone awesome who may let you down when you can just set yourself up for failure and expect it the whole time?
I get that.
But I always thought this was a girl thing... until recently.
I am going to say this as humbly as I can- I am a really nice person. I am not saying this in any exaggerated way. This also means that I get this type of phrase,
"You are so nice. You're going to be great for someone one day.. See that hot girl over there? What do you think?"
So annoying.
All you boys that say you want a nice girl, you do EXACTLY what us girls do. Set yourself up for failure with the hottie with either ZERO personality or is not very nice.
I have done this many times.
The whole package deal would be great, though.
Attractive, good personality, successful.
This really shouldn't be that hard... but 23 years of experience has taught me differently.
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